Mentorship is invaluable. No one could ever put a price on mentorship, it’s a gift that literally keeps giving. As a mentor, I don’t feel entitled to charge for what should be given freely. No strings attached. No coercion. No passive aggressive entitlement. Just authenticity.
Rabbi Victor Gross believes that mentors are wisdom keepers. I believe that mentors are “truth tellers”. They are individuals who love to see others rise without selfish gain or notoriety. If you are seeking a mentor, here are a few considerations to guide you:
Be willing to have hard conversations.
Don’t expect to be promoted; expect to be promotable.
Mentorship and coaching are two different things filled with case by case nuances. In mentorship, your goals are assessed through developmental achievements. Spiritually, I believe mentorship is an spiritual assignment. The only way I will mentor an individual is through a divine instruction. I don’t have a spiritual mother or spiritual father, and I don’t want one. I am no one’s spiritual mother, and I don’t want to be. Everything I do points back to the father... not me. I refuse to be anyone’s idol. I’m just a sheep...like everyone else.
Jeffrey Gandz, a professor of business administration at the Richard Ivey School of Business, says two of the biggest problems he sees are hero-worship and overdependence on a mentor. In other words, protégés should never get so attached that they can't make decisions without checking in with their mentor. If you’re aren’t careful, you can end up in a narcissistic cycle of emotional abuse and define it as respect.
“And call no man your father on earth, for you have one Father, who is in heaven. Neither be called instructors, for you have one instructor, the Christ. The greatest among you shall be your servant. Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.”
Matthew 23:9-12 ESV
In coaching, goals are more performances based. At Koinonia Training and Consulting is an amazing blend of both, but with measurable outcomes and results. Through my business, I offer premium coaching services… and I’m proud of it.
I charge for my work, but I know the work that I do is also unquantifiable. Ministry is free because it is inspired by the Holy Spirit - but sessions are not. Scriptures are free, but consultations are sold separately.
Even though I am a business woman, I am daughter of Christ first. I will never use money as a means to control or manipulate an individual to do something. I’m not MK Ultra handler nor is anyone in my organization.
In business and ministry, I abide by these affirmation based core values:
I lead, I do not coerce.
Jesus Christ was a ethically sound transformational leader - and that’s who I follow.
I am not a resource. I am a person. People are not resources. People are people. I will see them as people.